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the most precious gifts we can give

In Uncategorized on July 31, 2012 at 2:11 pm

Yesterday morning I spent a few hours at the car dealership getting the oil changed.

My little one had asked to come with, but as she had a fun day of daycare and I had a few hours at a boring car dealership, I declined her bid and proposed that we take a bike ride after dinner instead. She gleefully accepted my proposal though I wasn’t sure if come days end, she’d remember 😉

Fast forward 10 hours and we’ve wrapped up dinner, the girls have watched a bit of the Olympics, and R says she wants to go for a ride. Its late, so we agree that it will be a short spin around the neighborhood.

On the way out the door, my sweet tooth kicks in and I whisper a question to R: “should we bike to the store and get a treat?”

R is no fool and wants to know what kind of treat to which I reply “chocolate, or ice cream” and then, fully taken with the vision, say the magic words: “or both” at which point R is completely on board with the scheme, grinning from ear to ear, her face full of joy and anticipation.

She brings her baby with, and after some deliberation decides that it can ride in the basket. We cruise a few blocks out of our way because the evening is so nice – warm but not stifling, with  just a hint of a breeze and at least for me, the realization that we’re starting the slide into winter and that soon this weather will be a distant and longed for memory.

And R talks. About everything. If you’ve ever been around a 4 year old, you’ll know what that means. If you haven’t. Well, its hard to explain, but it means that you hear an amalgam of everything that’s happened to them in the past few weeks, along with whatever they happen to see and focus on at the moment, plus whatever that seeing makes them think about. And R – she sees, and thinks, a lot.

To be honest, she’s a firehose, and I suspect that being a little sister, she often doesn’t get as much attention and “listened to” time as she’d like. As a raging extrovert, I can certainly relate.

So I listened. For 30 or so minutes, I did little to interject or steer her narrative flow. I just listened. And loved it.

And I recalled hearing from one of my many spiritual teachers that our time and our attention are the most precious gifts that we have to offer others because of how it feels to be with someone who’s really there with you, how it feels to be really listened to.

Who wants more of your time, your attention, your listening?

why don’t I work at home?

In Uncategorized on July 30, 2012 at 1:18 pm

so I’ve got somewhere to bike to!

Earlier this year, I started a new job and for the tiniest sliver of a moment, I thought about working from home. I just as quickly rejected the idea because if I worked at home, I’d have no office to bike to and as these two little nibblets suggest, biking is good for all kinds of things:

Worlds Happiest Cities Have the Most Cyclists

and: (via Facebook)

 

omega dekazz

In dekazz on July 26, 2012 at 10:08 am

I heard about dekazz on Facebook via Rachel Bagby and loved it pretty much from the get. I’ve returned to the form on and off in the months since learning about it, and thought to share some dekazz poems I wrote while at Omega last week.

I can’t say if they’re good or bad. I can say that they’re the result of honest effort and a desire to capture something of what I was seeing and feeling.

morning
gratitude
heart opening wide

this cherry
the last one!
unsatisfying

sharing
small brolly
soaked with rain and joy

Wet Commute

In Uncategorized on July 24, 2012 at 10:03 am

7.71 miles of light raining cycling fun! #wetcommute #playingintherain! special thanks to the folks who smiled, nodded, greeted me, or otherwise positively acknowledged my “good morning” to them as we passed each other on the bike path…

Outside the sanctuary

In Uncategorized on July 20, 2012 at 6:48 am

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mixte aesthetics

In Uncategorized on July 11, 2012 at 10:35 am

had a conversation with C this am that made me realize that she doesn’t appreciate bike aesthetics.

Perhaps you do?

new grips on the new handlebars

In Uncategorized on July 10, 2012 at 8:51 pm
New handlebars with cork grips

getting there….

The new handlebars with the newly installed cork grips!

The brake lever positioning isn’t quite what I’d like as when the levers are aligned under the grips, you can’t fully depress the levers which equals a loss in braking power which is BadNews! As it stands, I’ve rotated the levers so they’re a bit off center. You get full braking power, but at the loss of the clean and svelte lines I was looking for, and on a mixte, it’s all about the clean and svelte lines, right?

However, I’ve done my share of old bike “upgrades” and know that it’s a slippery slope that can lead to spending way more money than you would have thought at the outset. I’ll see how C. likes the set up before doing anything more…

Tree house

In Uncategorized on July 6, 2012 at 6:58 am

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